こちらこそ、デイヴィッド。本当に楽しかった。ありがとう。
ENOne of the best quotes I ever heard from him, he was trying to buy a competitor and the competitor says, "I'm not afraid of you." And he's like, "Well, if you if I cut off your hand, your body will suffer." [laughter] That's a very crazy thing to say. Um, but you I think you nailed the fact that uh he his he was probably one of the greatest strategists. I had the thought, you know, I reread things over and over again. I know you have that same habit that you'll read a book and then you'll reread either read the entire book again a few years later, but you also read your highlights from them. We talked about this at dinner when we had dinner. Yeah, they're excellent. the when I rate I think I was rereading Jeff Bezos's shareholder letters for the third time which I think are very I think I should read them almost every year because they're just first of all you can read them in a weekend and they're just so many insights per minute and in my opinion I think the two best strategists that I've ever come across in all the reading I've done has been Rockefeller and Bezos kind of describe what they want to do and then they go out and do it and it's very very similar. No, that's a good point. I mean, he has that document, I think, called Master Strategy that he wrote, you know, 15 20 years ago, whenever it was at the beginning of Tesla. He's like, we're going to do this, then we're going to do this, and then we're going to do this. And you you go back and it looks very similar to what actually occurred. Uh, I want to go back to your competitive drive though because we touched on it, but I I think there's like a little bit more there. Okay. You expressed some skepticism in your in your interview with Yeah. But it's a positive. Yeah. I think the positive source. But later down, I I reread that entire page. And he's talking about this other guy at the time that was older than him that was living in his city that was doing the exact same business. And it sounds very similar to when you viewed some of your friends and then eventually competitors and some of the people you actually acquired where Michael's like, "Yeah, but I have ideas about where I could take this that this guy can't even contemplate." And he was not saying that in an arrogant way. He was just saying like you don't have any limits. Did you listen to the Daniel Ek episode? Okay. So, Daniel, this is one of the most important things about that episode and about spending any time with him. You get around him and you realize he has no ceilings. He does. There's no self. I think a lot of people It sounds like I want I want to go back to the the people you acquired because one of my favorite I'm doing this for selfish reasons. This is why I'm having these conversations because I had the opportunity to learn from you. One of the things that's so incredible is I think a lot of people and I've done this myself they put these like fake ceilings. but it literally like I can't go any further than here. Spotify is obviously incredible you're talking about neco I totally agree with that. Cre human creativity is fundamentally limitless. There is no limit to the mind except what we self-impose on it. And once you realize that, see, most people self-censor themselves. They don't let these ideas come through because it's like, well, that's not possible. That's crazy. That's nuts. I think entrepreneur lets a little bit more through in terms of that flow from from that emerges up through through their minds. They just had different I just had different ambitions. That's all. They they I just had a uh um I just wanted to grow a bigger company. They wanted they just didn't have that vision. I credit many many good things to my father. I actually think he played a counter uh inforce on a force on that. And my dad, for example, he was a depression uh kid in World War II. Yeah. So, one of the things that one of the mistakes that I made was after Holies went public, my dad was he got me to sell stock in the IPO. This Todd Graves would hate this uh stock in the IPO and he he urged me to continue to sell it off. He said, "John, I mean uh we don't know when the next depress my dad said he'd have made a lot more money. He was always thinking there was going to be another great depression. So he was always trying to protect himself from that because it was such a it was such a traumatic experience for him as a child watch growing up in that depression with his with his family. Um they lived through it and it never it was the biggest thing that impacted him in his life and so in some sense that spread to me. So it's you might say that's more limited. I sold it because he advised me to do it and I trusted my dad. But in retrospect, that was a mistake and I really believed and I should have compounded it and compounded it and compounded it. Um, still made still made I'm still really a wealthy guy, but I could have been a lot wealthier if I had just probably followed my own instincts instead of his advice in that regard. Yeah. That's correct. But I think in that case my dad he he was in he was already being impacted by the Alzheimer's that was diagnosed a couple years later. Did not know that. I just didn't understand why he'd gotten so conservative because he'd been very supportive of my expansive mode. [clears throat] And I at the time I just thought, you know what, now we're worth so much money. And a lot of my father's wealth was created by Whole Foods. He had his own he had his own business, but I think he made more money from Whole Foods than he did in his other business. I thought he just doesn't want to lose what he has. He's in a different era in his he can't rebuild. So for him, he wants to be more conservative. And I just said, he's getting super conservative. That's why I said, "Dad, sell half your stock, cash it out, keep the other half, let me compound it, but let me go. I I we're going to grow this thing. It's going to be an incredible company. Just let me do it. you were 40 and he was what? 70. Same as I am right now. Oh, no. Uh yeah. 15 years. That's right. Yeah. That was the most difficult convers I ever did was firing my dad from that board. Took all the courage I had. But I love my dad so much and it hurt him so badly so hard to do. But it was it was also a pivotal event in my own evolution. [clears throat] Um because that was that was when my mentorship was over. He still advised me but from that point onward I really you know I I I was on my own. I was not going to follow him any longer. Before then I pretty much did whatever my dad suggested. I didn't buck him. I argued with him, but I often caved in because I had so much love and respect for him and I and in his own and it was a good thing. My dad made so many good decisions that helped Whole Foods. But at that point, I was just basically I'd grown up. I remember saying, "Dad, I'm 40 years old. I'm going to make these decisions now. I'm not going to just do what you want to do. And that's why I want you to get off the board because I don't want us to be fighting. It's turning our relationship apart." I remember he said, "Son, you think 40 is pretty old, don't you?" And I said, 'Yeah, 40 years old. He said, 'It's nothing. You think he You think you know some things? You know a little bit more than you did when you were 25 and started the business, but frankly, son, you still don't. He said he said, "You've barely got your nose under the tent. There's so much you don't know." And I said, "Well, that may be true, but I'm going to find out on my own. I'm not going to do what you tell me to do any longer, particularly when it comes to growth. We're going to grow this business, and you should sell half your stock. you've got all the financial security you need and watch what happens to the other half. And I I always tell the I tell the story in the book that a year later he that the half that he'd sold was worth as much because we doubled the stock price in a year. Had the half the stock that he owned was was um more valuable than it was prior to his selling half of it. So he he'd already he'd already made it all back. Uh so he did he and a and a few years later even as the Alzheimer started to grip him my dad told me that um I had made the right decision and that he was proud of me and you know we we were back on really good terms. Yeah. Yeah. You know, my mom um [clears throat] again another depression child and I was named after her father who was a doctor and what my mother growing up in Bastrop, Texas, kind of in a poor, you know, I guess almost white trash type of thing back in that rural, you know, little tiny town, very small town ways, Baptist community. Um my mother, the most important thing for her was she really wanted to be respectable. She wanted she wanted her children to rise in society and be seen as respectable citizens. And my sister, the eldest sister, you know, she went on and got a master's in French lit, went to Welssley, got a masters in French literature and a PhD in psychology and, you know, went on to teach. Um, [clears throat] here I am scoring really high on IQ test, you know, great aptitude, A's when I was interested in something, maybe not so good when I wasn't, and, you know, kept I kept dropping out of college and I start this grocery store business. My mother could never get over the idea really that I was not respectable. that she'd go to her bridge parties and talk to the other mothers and their sons were going on and their daughters were going on and becoming uh uh doctors and lawyers and they were they were engineers [cough] [clears throat] uh college teachers, professors. They were they were she saw them as respectable people in society. She thought a grosser was you know really a secondass citizen. And so her son in her mind I wasn't an entrepreneur. She didn't even know what an entrepreneur meant. I don't think I wasn't a successful businessman. I was a grosser and I had squandered I didn't finish college. I'd squandered all the money they and love they'd invested in me. And she thought I was a failure. And I remember and I tell the story in the book, the very last time I I ever saw my mother in my life was back in 1987. She had had a stroke a couple years later and she was basically partly paralyzed and bedridden. And I went to see her and uh it turned out the last time I'd ever see her because she died a couple of weeks after I saw her. And she so I say on her deathbed she begged me. She said, "John, will you do this for me? Will you make this promise to me? I'm your mother. I've nurtured you. I've warned you. I've given you so much. Please, please, please, please promise me you will go back to school and get your degree and make something of your life. you have so much potential. You know, you scored so well on all these IQ tests and aptitude tests and you're just nothing but a grosser. I said, "Mom, I'm not a grosser. I'm I'm a businessman. I'm building this business. Whole Foods is going to be this great company." She says, "John, it's just the little grocery hippie stores. You know, nobody's, you know, you you're not doing you're wasting your life." And and I and she said, "Please promise me. Please promise me. It's the only request I have. please promise me. Now I look back and I, you know, I kind of wish I I'd lied and just did a white lie to make my dying mother happy, but I was, you know, it's 1987, I guess. Now what? I'm I'm 34 years old. And I just said, "Mom, I'm never going back to school. I'm I'm not going to go back. I'm building Whole Foods and it's going to be this amazing company. Already is an amazing company. It's going to be even amazing." I said maybe I will get a an honorary degree someday because I'm going to make a lot of money and I'm going to university is going to give me a honorary PhD which actually did happen. Uh and uh and she died a very disappointed person and you know that that her son who she had so much hope in had had wasted his life. So she died we were alienated when she died. Our last conversation she died a couple weeks later. You know the funny thing is my mom has been dead. I I think about my parents. My dad died in 2004. My mom died in 1987. And I still have conversations with them. I mean I mean in my mind and uh uh you know I I I ask for forgiveness with them and I give them forgiveness and I what I wouldn't do to have you know I'd probably pay all my entire fortune to have one more night with my parents. That'd be so great to be able to tell them how much I appreciate all the things they did to me and how much I love them. And also, hey mom, I turned out okay. And uh so we'll call that a a minor regret in my life that I couldn't make my mother happy on her deathbed. Give me one minute. That's … That's heavy. Don't apologize. That was absolutely incredible. I think it's very important. The reason that just impacted me and the reason I want to talk to you about cuz like when my mom died, I was around that same age and we were estranged. Like the saddest thing is she died like a a just horrific death. and the last two years of her life like that's not life. That was not living. That was suffering. And what I'm like, That actually is a a good like lead into I think one of the most important things that are in the book and you also talked about this when uh we had dinner. You recommended MDMA therapy for me. Which I [laughter] still haven't. Um talk about the inner work that you did. When did you start realizing you needed to fix something that was inside your mind as you're building the company? Was it early when you were starting the company? you tell this crazy story about doing LSD and I think you were Were you doing this the entire time you were building Whole Foods? John, that's a beautiful place to close. Thank you very much for writing the book. Thank you very much for taking the time to have a conversation. Thanks for talking to me again, David. I really enjoyed it. Thank you. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Please remember to subscribe wherever you're listening and leave a review. And make sure you listen to my other podcast, Founders. For almost a decade, I've obsessively read over 400 biographies of history's greatest entrepreneurs, searching for ideas that you can use in your work. Most of the guests you hear on this show first found me through Founders.